As a woman gets older- and after childbearing- the vagina has a tendency to become loose. Needless to say, this has some very negative effects on a person, physically and emotionally.
As women, we have a strong need to feel good and confident about our bodies. When your vagina is no longer tight, you lose sensation during sex, your partner's experience isn't nearly as good, and getting/giving an orgasm can become difficult. This takes a major toll on you emotionally, and when you're not feeling good about yourself, that negative energy often times rubs off on your relationships and causes problems between you and your partner.
In addition, aging and growing older can be a major stress to many women. Not having a tight vagina and the resulting effects feed into those fears of aging. It's like a vicious cycle of frustration and dissatisfaction feeding into insecurity and fears of no longer being desirable.
But none of this has to happen! You can learn how to make the vagina tight just like it was before you had kids, and when you were in your youthful 20s. You just need the right information and exercises.
Need I list the massive amounts of benefits you'll receive when you make your vagina tight again? You'll feel more healthful and vigorous in the bedroom, your orgasms will drastically improve-- and they will come much easier, and your partner's sexual experience will be far more pleasurable. These positive effects create a new positive and healthy cycle that continually feeds into and propagates itself.
You see, when you're sex life is good for you and your partner, that feeling of mutual satisfaction brings more peace and harmony into your relationship; you'll both be less on edge and more likely to meet stressful situations from a more balanced place.
So, sex- while it isn't the only thing that makes a relationship good and stable- does have a major effect on you and your partner's well-being. When you sex life isn't good, that can either be a symptom of a problem or a cause of new problems.
Now, there's a serious of steps you can take to make the vagina tight and youthful. These exercises will actually make sex better for you than it ever has been in the past, and better for your partner! Kegel exercises are the most effective way to get those love muscles tightened up. In a nutshell, you contract your pelvic muscles - and you know you're doing it right when your vagina actually closes up a bit. Doing reps of these will quickly make the vagina tight and strong. There's a bit more involved but that's a start. Read my bio to learn more..
Tuesday, August 16, 2011
Self-Care: It's Good for Your Health
Does this sound familiar: you make time to take care of everyone else but you "don't have time" to do something nice for yourself? Occasionally you might manage to eat a balanced meal or workout. Guess what: self-care is as important to your health as nutrition and exercise.
Since being healthy means functioning at your best in all areas of life, it's important to do things to improve mental, emotional, social and spiritual well-being in addition to physical wellness. One way to do this is to choose activities that help you manage stress and feel balanced. Practicing self-care accomplishes this and more. Consciously tending to your personal needs creates wholeness, the essence of health.
Being healthy means more than flat abs and normal cholesterol levels. It also includes healthy thoughts, uplifting emotions, and a supportive life philosophy. Nourishing social circumstances-like reliable friends, a loving family, economic stability, and meaningful activities-also play a key role in living an optimally healthy life.
True self-care by definition fosters optimal health. Tending to your personal needs promotes wholeness by giving your mind, body, and spirit what they need or yearn. That's self-care.
Acts of self-care can lead to improved health by 1) doing things that promote health or 2) avoiding things that harm health. For example, eliminating risky activities like distracted driving or tobacco use can boost health and longevity. Similarly, adding healthy activities like meditation or exercise can also improve health and well-being. Both types of choices are self-care.
Self-care also boosts wellness by helping to manage stress. Some experts estimate that stress precipitates up to 85% of health issues. That's not surprising if you consider that many types of stress exist.
Most people talk about distress-the unfavorable or negative interpretation of a real or perceived event. Perhaps that's because distress usually leads to periods of intense emotions like anger or fear. Positive situations, however, can also create stress. This is called eustress. It occurs in situations that inspire or motivate people into action. Falling in love or starting a new business might fall into this category. Both types of stress create demands that require your body to adapt.
Certain acts of self-care can help your body and mind adapt to stressors in a healthy manner. For example, relaxation techniques like diaphragmatic breathing, yoga, or music therapy help calm the nervous system. Mind-Body medicine experts believe this occurs by causing the body to release relaxation hormones.
Positive coping strategies, also acts of self-care, help alleviate stress by creating a healthy perception about potentially stressful situations. For example, reframing your perspective about an experience can help you view it as an opportunity rather than a threat. Another coping method, journal writing, can transform feelings of overwhelm and confusion into peace and clarity.
Self-care also decreases stress when it's used to create greater personal balance. Choosing to do more of what nourishes you and less of what depletes you creates a sense of balance, confidence, and competence. Doing this for yourself is practicing self-care.
Self-care can fit into any schedule. Even if you don't have the time or financial resources to spend a month alone on a private island, you can still take a few moments to connect with who you really are. Close your eyes and take a deep, conscious breath once an hour. Put on your favorite music and dance like no one is watching. Look in the mirror and complement yourself. Honor yourself every day. You deserve it!
Since being healthy means functioning at your best in all areas of life, it's important to do things to improve mental, emotional, social and spiritual well-being in addition to physical wellness. One way to do this is to choose activities that help you manage stress and feel balanced. Practicing self-care accomplishes this and more. Consciously tending to your personal needs creates wholeness, the essence of health.
Being healthy means more than flat abs and normal cholesterol levels. It also includes healthy thoughts, uplifting emotions, and a supportive life philosophy. Nourishing social circumstances-like reliable friends, a loving family, economic stability, and meaningful activities-also play a key role in living an optimally healthy life.
True self-care by definition fosters optimal health. Tending to your personal needs promotes wholeness by giving your mind, body, and spirit what they need or yearn. That's self-care.
Acts of self-care can lead to improved health by 1) doing things that promote health or 2) avoiding things that harm health. For example, eliminating risky activities like distracted driving or tobacco use can boost health and longevity. Similarly, adding healthy activities like meditation or exercise can also improve health and well-being. Both types of choices are self-care.
Self-care also boosts wellness by helping to manage stress. Some experts estimate that stress precipitates up to 85% of health issues. That's not surprising if you consider that many types of stress exist.
Most people talk about distress-the unfavorable or negative interpretation of a real or perceived event. Perhaps that's because distress usually leads to periods of intense emotions like anger or fear. Positive situations, however, can also create stress. This is called eustress. It occurs in situations that inspire or motivate people into action. Falling in love or starting a new business might fall into this category. Both types of stress create demands that require your body to adapt.
Certain acts of self-care can help your body and mind adapt to stressors in a healthy manner. For example, relaxation techniques like diaphragmatic breathing, yoga, or music therapy help calm the nervous system. Mind-Body medicine experts believe this occurs by causing the body to release relaxation hormones.
Positive coping strategies, also acts of self-care, help alleviate stress by creating a healthy perception about potentially stressful situations. For example, reframing your perspective about an experience can help you view it as an opportunity rather than a threat. Another coping method, journal writing, can transform feelings of overwhelm and confusion into peace and clarity.
Self-care also decreases stress when it's used to create greater personal balance. Choosing to do more of what nourishes you and less of what depletes you creates a sense of balance, confidence, and competence. Doing this for yourself is practicing self-care.
Self-care can fit into any schedule. Even if you don't have the time or financial resources to spend a month alone on a private island, you can still take a few moments to connect with who you really are. Close your eyes and take a deep, conscious breath once an hour. Put on your favorite music and dance like no one is watching. Look in the mirror and complement yourself. Honor yourself every day. You deserve it!
Self-Care and Balanced Living for Beginners: It Is Possible!
Does any of this sound familiar? You feel tired, overextended and out of balance. You want to feel healthier and more peaceful but aren't sure what to do, where to start, or how to add one more thing to your schedule. Maybe you've been taking care of everyone else and you're ready to put yourself on your "To Do" list. On top of it all, you feel a little drained, so any new activity has to be really easy.
If you've been too busy to commiserate with your girlfriends lately, let me tell you: you're not alone. In spite of all the time-saving gadgets we have, most people are busier than ever. With so many things calling for their attention some people don't even think it's possible to have a balanced life. They just think they have to become better jugglers.
Not true! Having a balanced life is possible. You have to address the right things, however, in order to achieve it. Just like getting weeds out of your garden, you have to get to the root of what's pulling you out of balance.
Though there may be common themes from person to person every life is unique. One size doesn't fit all when it comes to creating a balanced life. You have to take inventory of your life and give yourself whatever is missing from your equation. Identifying what you need and making sure you get it is self-care.
Self-care takes many forms. It could look like better time management, a day at the spa, going to bed a little earlier, or even setting boundaries with a pushy neighbor. It depends on what you need.
Your needs might change over time. One week you could feel calm and in control and the next you might feel like you're running on a treadmill set way too fast. That's the tricky part about creating balance. It's a practice, not a destination. Just like balancing on one foot, you might get steady and comfortable for a while but you'll probably waver and need to readjust at some point.
This is especially true if something in your environment changes. Imagine if the wind starts to blow or the lights go out while you're balancing on one foot. You'd probably have to readjust to keep balanced. Creating a balanced life is the same. That's why paying attention to your self-care needs and making them a priority is so important. You can't control what life throws at you but you can determine how you'll respond.
If you've been neglecting your needs for a while, or feel too tired to think about anything new, you might need a little assistance to figure out what they are. Reading good self-care articles or attending a webinar might be a nice place to start. A good webinar has the added benefit of coming to you in the comfort of your own home or office. No travel required. It's easy and convenient.
If you've been too busy to commiserate with your girlfriends lately, let me tell you: you're not alone. In spite of all the time-saving gadgets we have, most people are busier than ever. With so many things calling for their attention some people don't even think it's possible to have a balanced life. They just think they have to become better jugglers.
Not true! Having a balanced life is possible. You have to address the right things, however, in order to achieve it. Just like getting weeds out of your garden, you have to get to the root of what's pulling you out of balance.
Though there may be common themes from person to person every life is unique. One size doesn't fit all when it comes to creating a balanced life. You have to take inventory of your life and give yourself whatever is missing from your equation. Identifying what you need and making sure you get it is self-care.
Self-care takes many forms. It could look like better time management, a day at the spa, going to bed a little earlier, or even setting boundaries with a pushy neighbor. It depends on what you need.
Your needs might change over time. One week you could feel calm and in control and the next you might feel like you're running on a treadmill set way too fast. That's the tricky part about creating balance. It's a practice, not a destination. Just like balancing on one foot, you might get steady and comfortable for a while but you'll probably waver and need to readjust at some point.
This is especially true if something in your environment changes. Imagine if the wind starts to blow or the lights go out while you're balancing on one foot. You'd probably have to readjust to keep balanced. Creating a balanced life is the same. That's why paying attention to your self-care needs and making them a priority is so important. You can't control what life throws at you but you can determine how you'll respond.
If you've been neglecting your needs for a while, or feel too tired to think about anything new, you might need a little assistance to figure out what they are. Reading good self-care articles or attending a webinar might be a nice place to start. A good webinar has the added benefit of coming to you in the comfort of your own home or office. No travel required. It's easy and convenient.